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Lilac wants to date a “little puppy,” because, as she puts it, he would be “the exact opposite of the guys around me, including my boyfriend.”The 25-year-old, who works at a Shanghai-based online publication and only wants to be identified by her English name, said that her boyfriend doesn’t compliment her enough on her looks.
A little puppy, on the other hand, would always know to tell her, “You are the best.” After their latest argument, the two decided to take a break from their year-long relationship.
Chen said being with a puppy made her try to be more reasonable and less demanding, while her ex, who was afraid he wasn’t mature enough, tried to become more caring.
Wang, a 25-year-old master’s student studying law in the UK who also only wanted to be identified by her last name, is dating a man two years her junior at her university, and expressed similar sentiments about her lover.
That gave way in the 2000s to a taste for men with flowing locks and floral shirts, largely thanks to the influence of television shows like Taiwanese drama portrayed women in Cinderella-esque roles—damsels of lower social rank who would inevitably end up falling in love with a older, handsome, wealthy man.
The genre of TV shows spawned a new internet meme (link in Chinese) called “overbearing CEO,” referring to such men, who were for many years seen as the ideal boyfriend type.
Female fans declare their feverish love for such men by labelling themselves as their idols’ “girlfriends,” “aunties,” or “moms,” depending on their age.
They are thought to attach great importance to their own rights while respecting other people's privacy and choices, they value quality of life and they have many hobbies.
A scholar from Beijing said that Chinese women who love foreign men, especially European and American men, reflect a mentality typical of people from a weak country.
Chen, a 27-year-old woman who shuttles between Chicago and China for her software startup who only wanted to use her last name, was dating someone eight years her junior in her most recent relationship.
Older men always prioritize other things in their lives over romantic relationships, Chen said, but “this would never happen with little puppies.” One time, she recalled, her little-puppy ex skipped class in high school for a whole week, and flew from Seattle to Hong Kong to keep her company during her business trip. She theorized that dating a younger man brings out the best out of both parties in the relationship because they both end up setting higher standards for themselves.